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warrick
11-02-2007, 07:17 AM
When I was in 4th form in New Zealand (Year 11 I think), I had one of the worst/best days of my life. Our class was reading Shakespeare, and each person was randomly chosen by the teacher to read a part out of the book for 15-30 minutes. As a stutterer with an agonizing fear of public speaking, I simply died each and every time the teacher was choosing someone new for a part. All I could think about was how painful and long these 30 minutes of hell would be for someone like me that would struggle with each and every word when put in front of a crowd. I could not picture anything more painful. This slow torture went on for a grueling 3 1-hour periods of English over 3 days. It was all I could think about, even during other subjects and at home. I had to take hot baths just to relieve the tension building up in my shoulders and neck. There seemed to be no escaping it.

Slowly we were getting through the class one by one, each time knowing that my turn was drawing nearer. Then something strange happened. The teacher stood up and asked if everyone had read. Nobody replied, so we moved on to a new English topic. My dreaded nightmare was over. I could not believe it. For days/weeks/months afterwards I could feel myself getting torn apart by the most powerful yet mixed emotions I had ever felt. I had such euphoria that I did not have to embarrass myself with the longest 30 minutes of my life, and at the same time I have never felt so excluded and abnormal at the same time. Was it so painful to watch me struggle that the teacher would rather leave me out? If it was an intentional decision on his part, I’m sure he did it to protect me, but was sacrificing my education and school experiences the answer. I know I am more than likely over-reading ever aspect of the situation, but when emotions are so high, logic very rarely plays a part. It is now well over 20 years later, and I still remember that week like it was yesterday.

I know there is a million different lessons I could learn from it, but the part that sticks with me is the powerful mixed emotions. Sometimes you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t. Please from this what you wish. I just wanted to share my story.

Jason
11-29-2007, 09:08 AM
I think it is a good thing that the teacher excluded you. From what you are saying it doesn't sound like you was ready for speaking in class. If it was causing you that much stress and nervousness, sitting that out may have been a good thing.

I actually went through something similar in English. I was made to read a few times. After that the teacher began to ask me if I wanted to read in class, giving me the option. When the option was presented to me I felt so happy. I was being involved in the activity but I had the option to side step it. Before I was given the option I was much like you, I would be so nervous, as the teacher made her way around the class my hand started shaking. I would think about ways I could escape. I think I even bunked off English a few times to dodge the bullet.

What I didn't realise was that the reading contributed to my English grade. In the end it didn't matter as I was only 3 marks away from maximum on the written paper. I felt a bit bad about getting an E in reading. I didn't feel bad for not reading in class, I felt bad that the teacher didn't tell me to come back at lunch time and do some 1 on 1 reading. I now feel a little annoyed that I wasn't offered any additional support.

However looking back I am glad that I was excluded from reading. It made me different but it also allowed me to enjoy the subject. It allowed me to speak when I wanted to speak and I really really enjoyed English for it. By the end of the year I was even speaking in class quite often. (Still not reading though)

Nowaday's I would give myself a good whipping for stepping out of such a situation. Looking back though, I was young and terribly insecure. Reading in the right situations may have helped these issues. However I firmly believe at the time it would of just forced me back into shell.

warrick
11-29-2007, 11:51 PM
Hey Jason, great post. I really dont know what I would have chosen if given the option. Actually, much like yourself, I would have chosen the same as you in a heartbeat but I dont know if I would have been totally comfortable with my decision. Especially in the long run. I guess as you get a little older, you also get a little wiser.